Boundaries Around Your Relationship - Ep. 122 (Boundaries Series)

Three boundaries to consider setting around your relationship toward the end of the year are external circumstances, extended family, and extramarital interests.

Action Step:

1. Make this your mantra this week: “My marriage is non-negotiable.”

2. Make a list of any boundary that needs to be set, or that you anticipate having to set through the end of the year.

3. Write down your boundary in black and white, and then read it or communicate it to whoever needs to be told, that your marriage may not only survive 2020, but thrive in all the ways you most desire it to in years to come.

To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.

Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week; my husband, Evan, for podcast editing; & YOU, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better! May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

Personal Boundaries Pt. II - Ep. 121 (Boundaries Series)

Do you ever feel like you give and give to others, while your time, energy, and desires are taken for granted? If so, then perhaps some boundaries are in order. Listen in this month to learn what boundaries are in the first place, and how to set boundaries personally and relationally.

Boundaries around your Energy: What relationships bring you life and energy? How can you prioritize these relationships and your time? On the other hand, what relationships tend to drain your energy? Are you in a season where you need to set some physical boundaries? Or are you in a place where setting an emotional boundary would be enough? And what’s one boundary that you could create there to either preserve your energy or protect your energy while being in their presence by only taking responsibility for what’s yours?

Boundaries with your Self-Worth: How do you see yourself? Where do you tend to place your self-worth? In contrast, how do you want to define your self-worth? Who do you let define it? The world? Or God? And what’s one boundary that you could create in your life in order to preserve, protect, and fully live into your identity in Christ?

To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.

Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week; my husband, Evan, for podcast editing; & YOU, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better! May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

Personal Boundaries Pt. I - Ep. 120 (Boundaries Series)

Do you ever feel like you give and give to others, while your time, energy, and desires are taken for granted? If so, then perhaps some boundaries are in order. Listen in this month to learn what boundaries are in the first place, and how to set boundaries personally and relationally.

Boundaries on your Time: How do you desire to spend your time? When, and with whom? What pockets of time do you have that you’re unhappy with, or have mixed feelings about, where setting a different boundary may free you up from negative emotions and allow you to connect in more genuinely enjoyable ways? And what’s one small boundary that you could create and communicate in one area of your life in order to spend your time how you want to in another area of your life?

Boundaries around your Attention: How are you spending your attention? Who in your life deserves your attention but currently feels unworthy of it? What do you desire to pay better and more attention to? And what’s one small personal boundary that you could create for yourself to help you give attention to the things and people you desire to? 

To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.

Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week; my husband, Evan, for podcast editing; & YOU, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better! May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

Boundary Setting - Ep. 119 (Boundaries Series)

Do you ever feel like you give and give to others, while your time, energy, and desires are taken for granted? If so, then perhaps some boundaries are in order. Listen in this month to learn what boundaries are in the first place, and how to set boundaries personally and relationally.

Questions to Ask Yourself:

Are My Boundaries…

1. Clear: What is my boundary? What do I want it to be and why? Am I clear on what’s okay and what’s not okay? Am I clear on how I will respond or manage myself if the recipient of my boundary gives me pushback? Have I left anything to wishful thinking?

2. Communicated: Has the appropriate person been told? Given what I know about the recipient of my boundary, what would be the best way to communicate this boundary? Have I let the recipient know what I will do in the event that my boundary is crossed?

3. Enforced: Has the boundary been enacted and consistently reinforced? Have I stayed strong in the face of any manipulation tactics or workarounds my boundary? Am I beginning to feel like a broken record?

4. A Good Fit: What’s the nature of that relationship? Is what I’m asking appropriate to the relationship? How close am I to that person? How much do I need to share when clearly communicating my boundaries? Does this boundary make sense when I consider my relational context, and my present capacity, margin, and responsibility? 

To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.

Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week; my husband, Evan, for podcast editing; & YOU, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better! May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.

Supporting versus Enabling - Ep. 118 (Responsibility Series)

Do you know the difference between supporting and enabling? Or what it means to take responsibility for carrying your own load while sharing in each other’s burdens? Listen in to find out - your action step is below:

Questions to Ask Yourself:

1. In what ways am I encouraging and empowering the growth and development of my spouse? My kids?

2. What do I find myself doing for my spouse (and my kids) what they can and should do for themselves?

3. How can I take personal responsibility this week to live out of my integrity and to share in my family’s burdens…but while carrying only what’s mine to carry?

To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com.

Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week; my husband, Evan, for podcast editing; & YOU, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better! May God be glorified in you and through your marriage.